“The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.”
In this portion of your mental lessons we will discuss (20) mental concepts that involve how you relate, understand and play within the golf culture and your present club or organization. Of course these areas can also apply to other parts of your life. How to get along at school/work, with your family and people you meet in your travels as a skilled athlete and golfer.
Please read each title to know the depth of social capacity. Some of these areas you may have discovered on your own and you have knowledge of already. Now we will go through them together from a brain point of view to recognize the support you will need.
- Bonding with your Technical Coach and Caddy
- Trusting the Process of Golf
- Work Ethic /Standard
- Honest Feedback
- Support within the Golf Community
- Self Leadership Qualities
- Positive Body Language
- Golf Smarts/Sharing Knowlegde
- Coping Capacity
- Role Model
- Circle of Influence
Social capacity is defined as your ability to understand people, to recognize their differences and to acknowledge that some people will not have the same level of desire that you do to reach golf excellence.
Streams of books are written on the technical side of golf, but very few touch on capacity of human behaviour and the need to seek perfection within the game. How can you become a better person through the sport? Learn as much as you can from as many different people as you can. Even the club member who may not have the highest skill set, may have a word of wisedom about life that can help you.
Mental Tool for Social Capacity: Overview
Know yourself first, your standards as a player, your ideas for training, your beliefs and goals before you try understanding all the technical components. Most professional golfers I have interviewed tell me it takes a life time to know each shot. In other words start with knowing the people in the sport that can encourage and help you grow as a player and person first.
Mental tip: Look in the mirror to understand your social capacity. If you do not like or know who you see, you will be missing a large part of controlling your game. You are your own best coach, get to love THAT PERSON.
Create a social ritual to say hello to people at the club, practise area and range. Your golf presence is about being professional, and calm. I have to question players who are so intense that they forget the roots and history of this sport began as a social event. Playing well is about enjoying the process. Positive, friendly mannerisms add to your game when playing at your own club or being a guest somewhere else. Just ask the backshop who they like serving and it will not be the rude person who thinks they own the course!
Social behaviours that are emotionally intense, self centered and driven to beat everyone else, do not succeed. Your score card is more a reflection of how you cope and how you relate socially as well as to yourself and your golf coaches.
Social mental training helps simply because you will burnout and begin to hate the game you started out loving. On top of that people in the golf community will begin to draw away and not enjoy playing a round with you. If you are in a bad mood, head to the range and work it out on your own!