“The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.”
In this portion of your mental lessons we will discuss (20) mental concepts that involve how you relate, understand and play within a team, culture and organization. Of course these areas can also apply to other parts of your life. How to get along at school/work, with your family and people you meet in your travels as a skilled athlete and soccer player.
Please read each title to know the depth of social capacity. Some of these areas you may have discovered on your own and you have knowledge of already. Being a TEAM sport, these should have been addressed at some time in your soccer training. Now we will go through them together from a brain point of view.
- Team Bonding
- Trust of Others
- Communication (TEAM)
- Work Ethic /Standard
- Honest Feedback
- Team Support
- Leadership Qualities
- Positive Body Language
- Rink/Street Smarts
- Coping Capacity
- Role Model
- Circle of Influence
A REAL team is a group of people who come together with a common interest to which they belong and gain respect for each other. In fact Coach Lorie hardly uses the word team. Why? There is a word that means so much more and that is your sporting team is your FAMILY.
A great (team) family, has a strong desire to win both in a game and in life. They are competitors.
Social capacity is defined as your ability to understand people, to recognize their differences and to acknowledge that some people will not have the same level of desire that you do.
Streams of books are written on building teams or defining a team but not many people or organizations define the qualities within the brain to accomplish a productive, respectful and “tight” group. Remember a family may not always get along, but they stick together in the long run.
As a soccer player your social capacity can be defined by these 20 principles. There is a lesson in this section for each one.
If anything you will see your position on your family (team) as a contributor, as well as a leader of quality, endurance and commitment as you work along with every kind of personality imaginable. Social capacity is to not loose your identity, but to adapt to other teammates ideas and concerns. Think about these two quotes:
“ Team (families) remind me of chicken soup—there is a hundred different recipes for success.” CLP
“Fully knowing your sports team (family) means that you have invested the time to understand how they are wired to think and what is required to motivate them to excel beyond what is expected from them.” Forbes.com Oct.2012
Mental Tool for Social Capacity: Overview
Know yourself first, your standards as a player, your ideas for training, your beliefs and goals before you try understanding a teammate. Mental tip: Look in the mirror first! Then take one person on your team at a time by asking them more open questions about themselves. Let them share their story with you.
I suggest to many players to start your social capacity with the defensive players and ask them a number of open questions, listen well and get their ideas about their position. What kind of “D” are they? A little hint…ask the goalie first!
Next is the majority of the team— the offensive positions. How do you get to know the people on the team (family) who are trying to get the ball in the net and set up plays? It is logical that certain players will work on lines together and this will change as the season goes on. The best offensive players I know adapt to the social and physical situation of leading AND following. Ever had a mate complain about being on the 3-rd or 4th string? Get over it people! Social capacity for offensive players is about CHANGE. It is going to happen from game to game.